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Fat & Sweets Podcast
Ep. 11 Campfires, Wine, and Unfiltered Truths: "Smell the Poop, if you will."
A spirited campfire song kicks off this candid exploration of life's complexities, where nostalgia meets modern dilemmas. We reminisce about classic SpongeBob episodes—lamenting how the quality has dipped in recent seasons—before sharing tales from a spontaneous winery visit that yielded some exceptional 14.5% red wine. The difference between appreciating fine wine and settling for "sweet bullshit" becomes a playful debate that reveals our contrasting tastes.
The conversation takes a serious turn as we discuss a recent encounter with law enforcement that nearly ended in detention. This sparks a passionate dialogue about knowing your rights while maintaining respect during police interactions. We emphasize that complying with basic requests doesn't mean surrendering your right to question or advocate for yourself—especially when you know you're in the right. For minorities especially, there's a delicate balance between standing your ground and ensuring your safety.
Technology enters the discussion with Meta glasses becoming both a point of enthusiasm and concern. While these wearable devices offer incredible convenience and entertainment options, they also raise questions about surveillance, privacy, and the increasing ways corporations track our movements. Are these technological advances making our lives better, or are we surrendering too much of our privacy?
Perhaps most compelling is our exploration of how relationship dynamics shift once titles are applied. When "just dating" becomes "boyfriend and girlfriend," or partners become spouses, expectations often change dramatically—and not always for the better. We argue that the best relationships maintain their fundamental dynamic regardless of title, with both partners accepting each other exactly as they are rather than expecting transformation after a status change.
The episode concludes with hard truths about phone privacy, trust, and communication in relationships. Going through your partner's phone is never the answer—either have the courage to ask direct questions or recognize that the relationship lacks the foundation of trust it needs to survive.
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Ahem, da-dum-da-dum-dum-dum, yo come on, what the hell is that let's gather around a campfire and sing our campfire song, the C-A-M-P-F-I-R-E-S-O-N-G song.
Speaker 2:And if you don't think that we can sing it faster than you're wrong.
Speaker 1:it'll help if you just sing along Boom boom, boom.
Speaker 2:C-A-M-P-F-I-R-E-S-O-N-G song. C-a-m-p-f-i-r-e-s-o-n-g song.
Speaker 1:If you don't think that we can sing it faster than you're wrong. It'll help if you just sing along. Is that a square word? Good, he said. Patrick Say I'll be a fire, it'll help. It'll help If you just sing along, oh yeah.
Speaker 2:Welcome, welcome, chat.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:That is the campfire song. You're welcome from the earliest version of spongebob, where it was actually good the ones who know no the new spongebob is absolutely cheeks it's fucking terrible, it's sandy cheeks it's actually.
Speaker 1:I tried to sit and watch a new episode of it and I could feel my brain turning into putty.
Speaker 2:The animation is different too. Yeah, have you noticed? The cartoon looks different.
Speaker 1:Yes, See, I'd be okay with the cartoon looking different, because if you're a true SpongeBob fan, you know that SpongeBob evolved through the years. But the comedy was still pretty consistent. But now this shit, it's hard to watch.
Speaker 2:I don't know if it's because I'm getting older or if the writing is just that bad. Well, listen channel. Let us know the the real chat, the 90s babies chat that grew up on the real spongebob that has watched continuously will. Let us know if we tripping. But anybody who watched the original and watched this one can see the difference. It's just like the the fresh prince, when they had black obvi, and then they got she's still black, but she light skin. It was just a different feel for the show and we kind of like were off put by it at first, but then she turned out to be all right.
Speaker 1:They just kept it moving. They shoved it down your throat and gave you no choice but to accept it.
Speaker 2:No, choice but to accept it. This is also just as bad. This might be a stretch, but when they tried to change the intro song to Power.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:And we were all pissed about that. That lasted for one episode.
Speaker 1:It wasn't still Joe singing, was it?
Speaker 2:It was Trey Songz, actually, that's right and that shit sucked, but anyways, we just went on a whole different tangent. I like this, though that's a free-flowing intro to the show. We go from SpongeBob.
Speaker 1:It's very much my add and how it works it's a it's kind of the tism, part of the tism and it's everything combined.
Speaker 2:We all jacked up out here. This is season two, season two, episode two. It's the deuce, deuce, deuce, deuce, and I got some wine over here. See, this is this is time for the wine story, bro. We got to start telling more stories. That's what I heard. If y'all didn't know, it's Fat Daddy.
Speaker 1:And Sweets the goddess. Y'all should see him over here sipping his wine. He's swirling it in a circle and sniffing it and everything.
Speaker 2:And it's out of a whiskey glass that I made. Damn it.
Speaker 1:That's pretty neat, I guess damn it.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, it's pretty neat, I guess. Pinkies up because I'm fancy, swish, swish. So yeah, we were driving back from seattle, me and bro went out there to see maryland play I forget whoever, it doesn't matter, because maryland's who. We went to go see march madness first time I ever seen college march madness. We're taking this road trip back. My add kicked in again. I saw a winery on the right. We whipped up in there. Joint was closed. We knocked on a window with somebody in there, they hooked us up with some wine. So now we got some wine that she gave us, a three pack in a nice little box. It was no, I'm not no, no advertising here. But if you ever are on a road trip and you see a winery, please go in there and talk to them, because anybody who owns a winery, even if they are closed and they're not doing wine tastings, they will sell you wine.
Speaker 2:I'm basing this off of my one experiment so it's not completely true, but that one that we found in washington boy. Do they have some fire wine?
Speaker 1:it is a simple red 14.5 alcohol for all of you alkies out there that's a lot for wine it sure is like a regular wine is what like 10, between 10 and 12, when it's that sweet bullshit.
Speaker 2:But when you drink real wine, 13 is where your threshold is at. It'll literally leave a ring around your glass. That's how you tell. That's why they swirl it. They see what kind of alcohol contents in it. If it stays and it runs real slow, it's a lot of alcohol in that drink.
Speaker 1:Oh you just learned me something. I didn't know that it's all good. You said it's 14.5, 14.5, oh, so you might want to try to, I don't know.
Speaker 2:Do some things when you get done drinking it oh no, it definitely either makes you uh, super, super ready touchy feely, or makes you ready to go sleepy? Yeah, I'm gonna say I want to go sleep yeah, so if y'all didn't know, we talk wine on here too. Um, but pull off on the side of the road and go to your local winery if you want some unsolicited advice.
Speaker 1:That thing going to have you sweating like you had a diddy party.
Speaker 2:No, no 14-5 is chill. You have one glass, bro, you don't need to drink any more than that. But me and bro knock down a bottle each time we open it, because that's just. We like wine, we like it with our steaks, we like it when we're watching a game. Chilling it's nice. We like a nice dry red wine and we haven't even popped open a cabernet sauvignon or the merlot and like that's important. So we drink the simple red blend first, because that's like the lesser of the ones that we care about and we're gonna open up probably the merlot next, because our favorite is cabernet sauvignon oh, those are.
Speaker 2:That's that bitter no, none of it's bitter, no, and this is from a winery. This ain't from like the store, this ain't shelf bought. This is like the grapes that were out there that we saw were the ones that were pressed and aged in barrels at that spot. Like this is different Wineries are the best.
Speaker 1:Would you still drink it if you knew that people were like squishing it with their toes?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I would.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. I mean, that's how it was originally made.
Speaker 2:They're not dirty feet. How do you know you can't do that. It's an FDA violation. Your business will be shut down if you did it in any other way. Yeah, all right, moving on, because you're trying to crap on my wine. When you drink sweet bullshit that gives people headaches.
Speaker 1:What's your favorite wine? Tell the chat what your favorite one is. I mean, I don't have like a brand per se, but I prefer like a sangria. Yes, something sweet and fruity is preferable. I I don't do well with like that. What do they call it dry? Is that the word for the bitter?
Speaker 2:one. It's not bitter, it's dry.
Speaker 1:Well, excuse me, dry wine I can't if if I have to sip it and it makes me like purse my lips a little bit, I don't know, it's just hard for me to, it's hard for me to enjoy. I don't know, most women are like that, I guess.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, chad, there's a few things that Fat Daddy, I know, wanted to go over.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm about to go crazy. I'm about to make this real simple, real plain, ok. So first I'm gonna just be transparent with y'all. We were supposed to sing casey and jojo all my life. I didn't want to sing because I feel like I would mess that up, so we sung something more lively and upbeat and we sung the campfire song. Hopefully you enjoyed that chat. Let us know via whatever medium you choose, and that's okay, but we wanted to say thank you. We have quite a few new subscribers and the fact that y'all subscribed will keep me and well, excuse me sweet tonight more consistent, because now you're paying, we're invested yeah, shout out to y'all, thank, you?
Speaker 2:yeah, for sure. I'm holding the mic right now. That's why I'm not clapping for y'all, but for real. The reason that I'm happy to pod is because now people are investing their money into the pod, which funds what we can do on the pod. We have subscribers on Spotify, and y'all are loyal. We have subscribers on Apple podcast. Y'all are kind of there. But, like, our most loyal subscribers are from Buzzsprout, which means you joined by going to our website and subscribing that way, which is the truest form of subscription. It's very easy. If you don't know how to do it, go to HTTPS, backslash, backslash. I think the colon goes before that. Either way, don't forget all that. Just put fatandsweetsbuzzsproutcom. Your browser will throw in the HTTPS part. Then you click the little dollar sign at the top right and that's how you subscribe. That's it. It's super easy. And what are you subscribing to? Well, you'll get a welcome email and then talk to the other subscribers and they will tell you what comes with it.
Speaker 1:And it's three damn dollars, three dollars.
Speaker 2:That's it. It's simple and you immediately get your return on investment and some but, anyways. Uh, this week has been crazy. I don't even know how to recap this week, but I've almost been detained, I've been in lots of arguments, and that's just what comes with being a ceo, I guess. So I'm just gonna accept my role and and just keep on rolling, I guess.
Speaker 1:How was this week for you? Well, the last few weeks have definitely been interesting, some tumultuous, but interesting to say the least. But overall I guess it's been a. You know, you just said interesting twice yeah was it for emphasis. Like drake and josh, I was reiterating that was. That's pretty much how I would sum it up today was the most interesting of all of them.
Speaker 2:Well, yesterday was pretty interesting. That's when I almost got detained, but I'm gonna tell y'all about restraint, because there was an officer that I wanted to cause some real harm to, but I didn't. I had a great partner who was telling me not to slap this man, and so I didn't, and then we left somehow, with no citation, whatever. Don't do what I do, but if you feel like you need to speak up and advocate for yourself, do that. If you feel like you need to speak up and advocate for yourself, do that, because otherwise you get steamrolled and walk over and people don't understand that what they're saying is either incorrect, flawed, biased or all of the above.
Speaker 1:I feel like there's such a such a fine line to tiptoe around when it comes to advocating for yourself and police, especially when you're a minority.
Speaker 2:Only because, when I've seen it done in a lot of other situations, it doesn't end well and that comes from a place of fear I mean not always, that's what you just said is coming from a place of fear is it, or is it something that I've actually seen with my own eyes? And then what did you see that?
Speaker 1:time I saw someone try to advocate for themselves and I saw a police officer not like it and take it as I don't know disrespect. Then it turned into resisting arrest, turned into a whole big thing.
Speaker 2:I'm talking about this time yesterday. What did you see then? There's two sides to this.
Speaker 1:Well, I saw that the cop was definitely soft and he wasn't with the smoke and I don't know it just. Things could have went a lot worse.
Speaker 2:Thank god it didn't but I don't think that's the you think that's the first time I've argued with an officer I'm sure it's not right I'm only saying that is.
Speaker 1:Isn't that a fine line to tiptoe around, though not when?
Speaker 2:you're correct, they have to abide by laws, the same laws that they're holding you accountable for. And if that is, isn't that a fine line to tiptoe around, though, not when you're correct. They have to abide by laws, the same laws that they're holding you accountable for, and if they're not, well, somebody's got to tell them.
Speaker 1:And it's going to be me every time. So you don't think that there's cops out there that don't abide by these laws, and sometimes just yeah, some of them I'm pretty close with.
Speaker 2:Yeah, next point.
Speaker 1:Some of them are just power hungry and stuff no some of them I'm very close with. Next, point, I'm sure, but my whole point is I think it is a fine line to tiptoe around maybe it might not be for you, nope, but for a lot of other, uh, black men, men specifically that I've seen in dealing with law enforcement and them trying to advocate for themselves, it doesn't go over well.
Speaker 2:It's all on how you present the information. Obviously, you don't need to make any sudden movements. You don't have to make any sudden movements, to use your words now, do you?
Speaker 1:No, not at all. But sometimes there's police officers that they just don't take too kindly to being proven wrong.
Speaker 2:Well then, that's on them. They shouldn't be law enforcement officers.
Speaker 1:I agree, I agree with that. Well, I ain't about to be quiet about it. I'm not saying you should, I was just saying that sometimes that can be uh, that can be touchy it is touchy, but how can I say I don't duck smoke and then duck smoke?
Speaker 2:that's contradictory I wasn't saying it's hypocritical so if you are somebody who's like me that says that I stand on what I say, I have values and I have principles, and it doesn't matter who it is that's on the other side of that, well then be about it. Is it risky? Absolutely. There's nothing that happens. That's good or bad without risk.
Speaker 1:How would you have handled it if things went south? What if the cop wasn't reasonable and and I don't know took it the wrong way, even though?
Speaker 2:you. That's on. I don't give a damn how he takes it. The information that I was presenting with was factual, was it not?
Speaker 1:I'm not saying it wasn't, but my question is if he decided to be a dickhead about it and he was already being a dickhead pull you out the car and cuff you and everything what do you think?
Speaker 2:what do you think I would have done?
Speaker 1:I'm sure you still would have talked your shit right and I probably would have hit him for sure, because now you touching me, you have no reason to touch me.
Speaker 2:You asked me for the info driver's license, registration and insurance. I gave it to you. There's no other reason for you to escalate. If you do that, then you are a law enforcement officer who doesn't know how to manage his emotions and should not be an officer. So if I hit you, that's like poking a freaking beehive and getting stung.
Speaker 1:That's dumb so you feel as though in a situation with law enforcement, if they're um wrong if they're wrong absolutely it's okay to resist or not comply that's not.
Speaker 2:How did I not? Comply well, I guess not, yeah, it would be, uh what not giving him the driver's license, not giving him the registration and not giving him the insurance. None of that says I can't ask questions right but like arguing with them and stuff though what does that have to do with anything? I have a mouth, I can use it. There's freedom of speech, is there not? No, there is all right, so how is anything that I did not complying with what he asked?
Speaker 2:he didn't say stay in the vehicle he didn't say don't get out and come talk to him. He asked for my info. I gave it to him all right.
Speaker 1:well, in those situations where the, the police officer is being an asshole about, I don't know, even if you're talking back and they want you to just shut the hell up you just not going to shut up if they got things drawn at you and everything.
Speaker 2:No, because it's not in their duties to tell me to stop talking. I can talk, so I'm going to, especially when you're wrong. Let this be a message for all of you. Chat Law enforcement officers have things that they need to handle and rules that they need to abide by. It doesn't matter what your fear is like, as long as you comply with what they've asked you to do, and it doesn't involve them telling you to stop talking. Speak your mind, because if you don't, who will Obviously do it safely? But there's nothing that says you can't speak your mind, so speak your mind. That's the message.
Speaker 1:All right.
Speaker 2:And fuck 12. All jokes aside, like if you're not a law enforcement officer who's actually trying to protect and serve and you're power hungry and you were bullied in high school and you wanted to vindicate that or have a vendetta towards all the people who bullied you, so you get in a position of power, you're gay and you shouldn't have a badge, a badge number, or be somebody who protects and serves. And if you come across somebody like me who's not afraid to speak and advocate for themselves, well, you're in for a long day. And if you pull the trigger on somebody like that because you don't know how to manage your emotions, you are, by definition, a pussy period. I think that that process should be changed. You shouldn't be able to just go to police academy, survive that bullshit and then become an officer. I think there should be a much more stringent process, and because there's not, well, I'm going to fucking talk about it.
Speaker 1:What do you think they should include in the process?
Speaker 2:A whole lot more. A fucking mental evaluation puts you in situations where you handle that, test your biases. There's bias tests you can take.
Speaker 1:So they don't give them mental evaluations before they join.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think you all should do your research on what it takes to become a law enforcement officer. It's really not that hard. It's harder to join the military than it is to become a police officer, yeah, so look into that and then you'll understand why people like Meek Mill and Jay-Z want to do prison reform and defund the police. The thing that they should do is fund the police more so that they can have better training. That would be a better route to go, because we do need law enforcement officers. We just need ones that make sound decisions and are quick to pull the trigger. Need ones that make sound decisions and are quick to pull the trigger right.
Speaker 2:Had a long conversation with my instructor about that at southern new hampshire university. I won't say her name, but, yes, my paper did really well and it was about that. Yeah, these police are flawed. They're human beings that have some good intentions, but most of them are just power hungry and just power hungry and ego driven. And for those, I can smell them a mile away. Because if your job is to inform, what inform? Fuck Neil too, by the way, that just popped into my head, because that month he's about to get fried in court. This was not even at all on the docket, but I think it's something that's important to talk about do you want to tell them who neil is?
Speaker 2:neil is a another bitch-ass officer in utah who wrote me a citation for having oversized tires and not having mud flaps and using my light bar to signal to somebody to get the fuck out of the express lane when I'm going downhill in a big truck. So fuck him. That man is the most uneducated officer in the entire state and made up bullshit. So I cannot wait to fry him in court and I should be able to log in and see what the citation says.
Speaker 2:And I still have his badge number written on the citation, so I'm frying anybody who tries to do some shit that's illegal. So if y'all can't tell, my relationship with people who are power hungry is interesting, to say the least, but I will ever, never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever not advocate or speak up when some bullshit is going on.
Speaker 1:Well, all right, that was great.
Speaker 2:You asked great questions. What are we doing? Oh, we have on a lighter note. On a lighter note because I know y'all probably felt the conviction in that, fuck 12. On a lighter note because I know y'all probably felt the conviction in that, fuck 12. Uh, the shopify store is in construction. Under construction ongoing. We're gonna have our whole website where you can go and purchase various items. More importantly, the fat and sweet uh merch for our limited liability company, our entertainment business. We're gonna have some hoodies and snapbacks and shout out to my boy, capone, who gave us the idea for vinyl stickers for the the car community uh, shopify is coming and I think y'all are gonna like what we do with it. And we have our official EIN given to us by the IRS, so this business is more than solidified.
Speaker 1:It's official Yep Once you pass the IRS test. I mean you're in the game.
Speaker 2:You're in the game now, so we can hire and fire and write employee contracts and non-disclosure agreements that aren't involving Diddy type activities, and do it the right way as CEO and COO respectively.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's huge. You know it's crazy. A lot of my people still haven't heard this and won't listen to it.
Speaker 2:Well then, you should send it to them.
Speaker 1:And you know it's crazy, I have Well. I've sent it to a lot of my people individually and a lot of those raggedy bitches still haven't listened to it.
Speaker 2:But it's okay. That's all right. This episode right here is subscriber only, so they're really not going to hear it. This isn't going to be on every platform. This is going to be on whoever has subscribed on those platforms, and if you don't subscribe, then you don't get to know. This is for our real nine that first subscribed and the rest of the people that came after that that just coughed up $3 and then saw the benefit immediately.
Speaker 1:Shout out to y'all Real supporters.
Speaker 2:It's not the people that stream, it aren't supporters. But the people who subscribe are the real ones. They didn't even mind. They were like, oh, it's $3. All right, cool, let me subscribe because I'm interested in aren't supporters, but the people who subscribe are the real ones. They didn't even mind. They were like, oh, it's three dollars. All right, cool, let me subscribe because I'm interested in what's being talked about or discussed. Or they bang with you or they bang with me, or they bang with us collectively together. So we appreciate y'all again. This is right back to the thanks to the subscribers.
Speaker 2:But yeah, we official now and I want to tell y'all something shameless plug not not really download whatnot. This is like qvc on crack, if y'all remember being younger and used to watch your grandmom watching tv and buying shit. This is like that and it's on an app where you can literally hop on, bid on something or win a giveaway, and then you have some new jays, some new jewelry, some new clothes, some new whatever, and you can also, once you get it, immediately sell it. So you can either save money on a deal or you can make money on a flip, and that's the best way to summarize what whatnot is. It's a live auction platform for anything under the sun, which is why it's called whatnot. This is not a paid advertisement. This is just me giving you all my experiences on this app and when I tell y'all the family is dripped out. Well, the family is dripped out and that's because of whatnot. And, like, you get stuff for way, way, way cheaper than what retail value is. So if you like saving some dollars and you want to make some dollars, or both of them, that's the app. That is the app for sure, and that's it. That's all I'm gonna say.
Speaker 2:And today, when we were talking about the, the idea for the vinyl stickers, me and my boy harry went to uh cars and coffee this morning and that was like an incredible experience. We saw all the gtrs, the lamborghinis, the r8s I mean literally every kind of performance vehicle you could ever imagine, with the best wraps, paint jobs, interior upholstery, sound systems, tvs in a trunk. Like it was incredible and it was all over coffee. So it was a networking melting pot of just CEOs, businessmen and women, car owners, car enthusiasts, mechanics like content creators. It was just an amazing place and having a young five-year-old boy with me running around just enamored by what he saw was really cool, and then I was rocking the metal glasses the whole time, so that was cool.
Speaker 2:I got to capture photos and videos and just document everything. So there's going to be some content shifts that happen and we may or may not do some stuff with the video pod, but I was able to give sweet some time to herself in the morning and she could hang out with my baby girl and it was kind of like a God's Day kind of vibe. So that's what I had going on today. And we went to the thrift store. I like to thrift, which, by the way, I got to give you a book that he picked out, which is hilarious.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, you and these meta glasses that you talked about they got you in a chokehold.
Speaker 2:Well, yeah, I mean think about why.
Speaker 1:I mean I get it, they're cool and everything.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, you don't get it. The way that you just frame that means that you don't get it.
Speaker 1:I do get it. I've never seen glasses with those capabilities. That's pretty neat. It's pretty neat.
Speaker 2:No, it's a game changer. It's. It's just, the conspiracy theorist in me has concerns. You know what. You know what he was. Capone was just talking about conspiracy theories, bro. We, we derailing this whole like agenda, and I like it. Conspiracy theories is something that I'm deeply invested in, and so is capone, and now you're speculating about these meta glasses when he has meta glasses, and he's a conspiracy theorist, so it's kind of interesting how that works I mean, I'm not saying what conspiracy around these meta glasses is so concerning I mean, like we already know that smartphones and everything um big brother's always listening and tapping into what we like, search and like they can, they can track us through our phones and shit.
Speaker 1:I just like with the glasses, it's just I don't know another way of keeping tabs on you. Now they can see everything that you see.
Speaker 2:The only thing that would be concerning is if you were doing some illegal shit, wouldn't it? If you ain't got nothing to hide, then what does it matter if they tracking you? They already know you.
Speaker 1:I mean, yeah, but I just feel like you don't think it's just another layer of privacy that is taken away from you.
Speaker 2:When you join an enterprise that you are just a social security number, like the one that I've worked for for the last 10 years. No, they already know everything about me. So what else is there to uncover? You know everything. I have nothing that they don't already know. So who cares? When you live life like that, you start to not care as much about big brother or whatever the hell. Who cares? They already know. And when they ask you questions, they just see if you want to lie about this shit or not. So if you thorough for real, what?
Speaker 1:does it matter.
Speaker 2:I guess, that's on you. These meta glasses is fire.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they're cool as shit. I don't know that little part Same with like Teslas and shit. Who's to say that? You remember that movie that was on Netflix. It was like the end of the world.
Speaker 2:Yo, what's it called?
Speaker 1:I forget the name of it. Just keep talking about it, but there's a part where it was like some. What were they called?
Speaker 1:What you talking about, when they all had their own Cybersecurity warfare zone, right, yeah, when they all started crashing, yeah, started like I don't know, all the Teslas was crashing out. That shit was crazy. So what? What is that going to do with Metaglasses? Well, I'm saying, like, what if somebody hacks Metaglasses and starts I don't know, starts doing some shit with that? Or what if, like on Black Mirror, what if they start, I don't know, find a way to like hypnotize y'all with these glasses on and then I'll just be hypnotized Until then I'm out with the meta glasses.
Speaker 2:that's my choice well, hey, all right, you sure is you just better be ready to pull the trigger if they turn me into a zombie or something. Are you ready for that? Yes, well, yes, I am. You're ready. How you have no phone, you better be ready for that.
Speaker 2:You better prepare I don't even care what this movie's called. Y'all know which one it is. I think she described. I got my computer on my lap. I don't even feel like looking this up called Y'all know which one it is. I think she described it I got my computer on my lap.
Speaker 2:I don't even feel like looking this up, y'all know what it is. If you've seen it, just be able to have three people readily accessible at your beck and call about any matter at all. I'd say, get the Metaglasses. They were $3.79 from the Sunglasses Hut. Ray-ban did an agreement and partnership deal with Meta and they made some fire frames and I love them to death and I will wear them as much as possible To just be able to be in my own world listening to music and no one knows I'm listening to music, bruh. I wish I had these joints when I was at jobs that I didn't like or when I was in school in some class like history that I just didn't give a fuck about. I would have been listening to an audio book or something else, or on the phone or whatever. I would have been doing some other shit.
Speaker 1:I would have cheated like shit with them glasses.
Speaker 2:Yeah, see, that's what happens when you put them in the hands of people who don't really know how to use them. I am content.
Speaker 1:It's the perfect way to cheat with them kind of glasses, right.
Speaker 2:But if you just know this stuff, you don't have to cheat. Stop being retarded.
Speaker 1:I mean stuff you don't have to cheat. Stop being yeah, but you ain't never cheated on the test.
Speaker 2:I never had to let me fuck out of here everybody's, just because that's you. Nah, I definitely stole people's homework.
Speaker 1:I'm saying that's cheating? No, it ain't you. That is a form. That is a form of cheating? No, it's not. I know the info.
Speaker 2:It's just easier if I just take your answers that's still cheating.
Speaker 1:No, the fuck it's not. It's time you took somebody else's shit and copied it.
Speaker 2:That's cheating, I didn't copy it, I just looked at it.
Speaker 1:So you took their homework to just look at it. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Let me see the sheet. It's 10 questions. It's multiple choice. All right, I don't need your paper, no more, thank you. And then motherfuckers didn't have to cheat. I also was a dweeb, so, no, I didn't have to cheat.
Speaker 1:motherfuckers was trying to get my homework yeah, I had some shit that I had to cheat on.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't care don't put that projection on me, because you was a little not there that don't mean I wasn't there.
Speaker 1:It means some shit I might not have fully grasped. Or I'm trying to get a one up on the test you should have stayed after school who says I didn't some shit, you ain't staying up you ain't staying up?
Speaker 2:shut the fuck up. Hey bro, you put that on me. I'm just saying you said it's cheating to take somebody's homework.
Speaker 1:I don't think that's the case, and nor would I need it to take anyone else's work so you can look at it, and I mean it's usually to copy it, but you said you didn't copy it.
Speaker 2:Bro, how is that any different than using a fucking reference for your paper?
Speaker 1:I mean, if you're referencing something, then you're not like plagiarizing it, right, you're just like referencing it and putting your own words to it.
Speaker 2:Exactly.
Speaker 1:I'm saying, if you take somebody else's work and just copy that shit, I just said I didn't copy it well, okay, all right then yeah, yeah goofy. That's still weird, though it takes someone's work to just.
Speaker 2:I just want to see what the hell it was and then go she ain't about to collect that joint, and then, if she did collect it, I just told her I didn't have it and then it was cool. Homework never fucking mattered. By the way, that shit is absolutely not beneficial to you at all in any way, shape or form. It's just additional work. You do all your learning in the classroom or after school with your tutor, the homework Y'all niggas didn't even do your fucking homework for real anyways, and you know you didn't. It's like I went to school or some shit before. Homework does not matter, and the funniest part about it all is nobody is fucking talking about your high school education now at this age, are they Hell?
Speaker 2:no so none of the bullshit matter. Nope Point case. All that Done. High school is a place for you to learn how to be punctual, how to network and have friends, how to be punctual, how to network and have friends, balance your school schedule and your extracurricular activities and maybe learn a trade if you went to a vocational school, and to prepare you for what college is supposed to be like. 10 of it, because when you graduate high school and you get to college, it is a totally different ball. No one's ringing the bell, no one's telling you what class to go to. Motherfuckers don't even help you navigate around campus, it's all on you. Or where to go, it's all on you. So high school is a place for you to go while your parents work. That's my theory. It's bullshit, which is why I'm considering homeschooling my children, because I promise you that they will be more educated at the crib than they would be going to some fucking public school education. I'm steamrolling this motherfucker bro. Please take the mic from me. I'm done. What's on?
Speaker 2:your mind um hmm alright, so damn, that shit is strong. Oh, 14.5 is crazy. All right, we also have some other stuff for you coming up promo code for various items, which we will disclose to you at a later point. Our promo code where you get discounts will be chew that over all caps. I think that's a cool promo code and whatever items we choose to list as things that we want you to pay for that are discounted If you use promo code CHEW THAT OVER C-H-E-W-T-H-A-T-O-V-E-R. I think think that's pretty simple. You will get a discount from Fat and Sweets Podcast and our affiliate partners. That will be revealed in later podcast episodes. We're really doing this. We're professional potters.
Speaker 1:I know, listen to the affiliate partners and shit.
Speaker 2:Yo, if y'all want Sweets to talk more, please let me know, because I be feeling like I'm rapping on here but she ain't really saying much.
Speaker 1:I'm about to fry her, bro I mean, this episode is really really yours, like a lot of the stuff that um the topics I wasn't really you know. I feel like I don't know too much about to comment on all right.
Speaker 2:So that means at about 34 minutes we got 10 minutes to get into this mainstream issue and I'm gonna start with the theory and then I'll let you take it from here. Fellas and ladies, I think that no matter what kind of relationship you have, the moment you put a title on that shit, it all gets fucked up.
Speaker 1:That's my theory I don't disagree with your theory.
Speaker 2:Let me add more detail oh, please do you could be best friends not actually like in some friend zone type shit, but I'm saying like you're really really close to this person, right, and you start to take a liking to each other and you want to move forward. The moment, moment you become boyfriend, girlfriend, shit changes. The moment you progress and become fiance and fiance, shit changes. And boy does it change when you become husband and wife, and that shit sucks. That's why people don't want to get married, because the only thing that should change is how much money you make, is how you make the decisions together. That stuff, that stuff should change, it should mature, your communication should evolve, your relationship should get better, and that doesn't mean that it'll be all roses and sunshine. It just means that you both are working on each other individually and then bringing that together to make the whole operation function better.
Speaker 2:But on the flip side, what happens is motherfuckers start to have expectations that weren't there prior to the new title, and I think that's bullshit. If your communication was great before, I think that it should heighten and become better, but once you put a title on it, motherfuckers start to expect shit like replies to texts and phone calls and just yes men or yes women, and that's never, ever the case. If you like the way that this person was functioning beforehand, you should absolutely understand that they may not change the way they are. And when you fall in love with somebody, you fall in love with them as they are, with no expectation on changing that shit. And if you choose to try and change that shit, don't be upset when you get disappointed.
Speaker 1:Stupid fucker that felt uh, oh, it is.
Speaker 2:Because people who are out here thinking that they could change somebody. You're wasting your time. Work on your fucking self.
Speaker 1:Well see, that's the thing. If you love someone and claim you want to spend the rest of your life with them, the goal shouldn't be to want to change them anyway.
Speaker 2:And that's the issue.
Speaker 1:I agree, and what I was trying to say before is I don't disagree with your point about titles changing the dynamic with things. But I will say I believe that there's a lot of relationships out there that that title won't change it.
Speaker 2:I know for a lot of them I will say a lot I would say there are anomalies. I would argue the opposite. I think that there are relationships that exist that don't change, but those are the real ones, the equally yoked ones. The ones that are supposed to be together.
Speaker 1:The ones that are superficial, those ones. Well see, that's what it is, the superficial ones who care about status for the sake of what everything looks like to everyone else.
Speaker 1:I get that why things would change. But as far as me specifically, if I'm rocking with you the way that we are now and we had husband and wife into the mix I'm not going to start feeling like I have some type of I don't know. I don't feel like I own you and that you are obligated to answer me a certain way now just because you're my husband. I would expect you to be who you were this whole time. If anything, I would hope maybe our communication gets better, like you said before. But no, I don't expect to run you just because I'm your wife now. That doesn't make sense and females who think that way.
Speaker 2:I can't wrap my head around it just because that's your husband, I want a time out before you be called a pick me man. Look, it wouldn't be the first time I've been called no, so I really don't.
Speaker 1:Don't call out the ladies, bro. I don't give a fuck. That makes me sound like a pick me. Y'all can hold my dick and that's why y'all lonely and miserable now is that your sock?
Speaker 1:yeah, wrapped around me twice and tucked in my sock, but but no, for real, I feel like, is that? That's like, if that's your husband, what does that mean? That means he's your property and vice versa, just because that's your wife, that means you own her now and she got to do whatever the fuck you say? That's weird. That's fucking weird to me.
Speaker 2:I think that's gay.
Speaker 1:I can't say that I can get down with it. Who are you to?
Speaker 2:say when somebody should be home? Who are you to say when somebody should be home? Who are you to say when somebody should text you back? Who are you to say when they should call you back? Who are you to say where they should and shouldn't go? You can express your opinion and make suggestions, but just know that at the end of the day, that decision is theirs.
Speaker 1:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:They are adults with their own right. However, when motherfuckers become fiance and fiance, they they just feel a way.
Speaker 1:I've seen it, I've experienced it, I've heard about it I will say also, at the same time, though, like you know, if, if that person is supposed to be like understanding of you, know that an adult, they're going to make their own decisions, your partner should also have enough consideration to check in with you here and there, not saying that they got to give you an update every 30 minutes, every hour, that's not necessary. But I feel like if you care about your person enough to be like, hey, just so you know I'm going to be doing this, probably won't be home until that's considerate, and I feel like that is also helpful. But when you're not doing check-ins like that, that kind of breeds for that toxic shit to fester, and then that's when I don't know. That's when people start saying why you ain't texting me back this line, why you ain't.
Speaker 2:But we set the expectations text me back this line, why you ain't. But we set the expectations. Hey, for all you drake fans. There's a song. There's a song for this. It's called the shoe fits. That's my plug for this song. This song is heat and and I know this is like a man but y'all motherfuckers who like going through people's phones out here, committing cyber crimes and shit.
Speaker 1:Oh, please don't do it. Don't do it. Blubb F.
Speaker 2:First off, you're going to get hurt.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:One. You're either going to find some stuff that's actually going on or you're going to find something that you think is going on and make it that in your mind yeah, and now you're hurt. So when you go looking for some shit, whether it's true or not, you're going to find it.
Speaker 1:You're going to find it. You're going to find exactly what you're looking for, your stomach's going to drop.
Speaker 2:And now your trust that you thought was there is gone and that motherfucker who phoned you in through is never going to look at you the same.
Speaker 1:Nope, and there's nothing worse than going through the phone. You find some shit. You just got to sit on that shit and got to look at them. See, I just feel like once you get to the point where you feel like you have to, or you even have the curiosity of going through your person's phone, that should be a red flag indicator right there that you're probably doing something wrong. Either you need to abort mission or you and your partner need to have a come to Jesus moment. And why are you feeling that way?
Speaker 2:Just talk. Y'all are pussy bro, Y'all duck smoke, Just talk. Yo, you've been moving a little bit weird and I was tempted to go through your phone earlier Like what is there, if anything that is going on? And if not, and I'm tripping, just tell me that and I'm cool. But it's something that's off, but talk.
Speaker 1:Open your fucking mouth. Wouldn't it be weird in that situation situation like, let's say, they did come together and talk and say, yo, you've been weird. I've almost wanted to go through your phone, like if they were to still be like yo, like, can I see it still?
Speaker 2:yeah, that's the way and you can ask and guess what, be ready for a no, because it's their shit, not yours. Dumbass, you're asking to see someone's personal device and if they say no and if you get upset, you're a pussy because that's their shit. Yeah, you can ask a question. That answer can be no and guess what? No is a complete sentence, dumb fucker. There is no negotiating. If they said no, that's just what it is. And if you can't live with that, well, pick somebody else, be with somebody else, because obviously there's no trust and without trust you have no fucking relationship, you have no foundation, no footing to move forward on.
Speaker 1:All right. Well, let me ask you this In that situation, if the answer is no, and you ain't going to let them go through your phone, what do you do to reassure them? In that situation?
Speaker 2:I don't think you have to If it's worth it enough to you.
Speaker 1:What do you do to? I don't think you have to. What do?
Speaker 2:you mean why not? Because you don't? Why should you have to provide reassurance for someone who didn't ask for reassurance?
Speaker 1:closed mouths don't get fed well in a situation like that, is that not a cry for reassurance?
Speaker 2:it might not be that, like they might not have just came out and said it I can presume, like that, I can assume, but until you say that's what you need, how the fuck am I supposed to know?
Speaker 1:But what else would that mean that they know, I'm not.
Speaker 2:I and anybody else is not a mind reader. As I said, closed mouths don't get fed, because what would I do, yo, since you said no, I need some reassurance that you're not stepping out on me. Doesn't that sound like a pretty clear way to ask that you need some reassurance?
Speaker 1:Okay. Well, if they ask for reassurance, what kind would you provide in that situation? What kind would I?
Speaker 2:provide. How about you give me the question? Give me the question, I'll give you my answer.
Speaker 1:So if going through your phone is not an option, it's not. All right. What is a way that you would provide some reassurance? That's still what's needed in the situation. What do you? Need to see on my phone.
Speaker 2:I don't know, like your messages or your DMs, and then I open it and I let you look here. Look at it. You're not going through my phone. I'm holding my phone and showing you. Read it. Who do you want to open first? Which thread? What do you want to read and what context do you need me to provide? How about that?
Speaker 1:I see, so you would still show the phone. You're just gonna like you know, you're gonna hold it here you go.
Speaker 2:I'll hold it as close as you need to for you, motherfuckers that have glasses and a stigmatism excuse me, astigmatisms and bifocals and all that shit. I'll hold it as close as you need so that you can see and read for yourself.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, see, that's different. Before I thought you meant like no, you're not about to see what's in here period.
Speaker 2:If they say that you got to, fucking take that as the answer, because no is a complete sentence. I'm transparent, so I will show you everything.
Speaker 1:Would you say that's a red flag? If they're not transparent, they're not even willing to.
Speaker 2:No, no, you should have known that beforehand. That is a testament to your discernment, or lack thereof.
Speaker 1:They should have known what beforehand If you.
Speaker 2:just like you said, if you have the inkling to go through their phone and you don't have the guts or the courage to ask for the reassurance you need, well, that's a recipe for disaster, Is it not? So if you have that weird feeling back to our episode about intuition, shouldn't you listen to it?
Speaker 1:I would say so.
Speaker 2:If you don't, then well, you're choosing to stay in something that you think is uncertain, which would be you fucking yourself, because your gut will never wrong you, hmm.
Speaker 1:I see.
Speaker 2:I think that they see too.
Speaker 1:Good point.
Speaker 2:And, trust me, I've been the ain't shit nigga. I have absolutely been the one that was doing all types of grimy shit and talking to a bunch of bitches and doing whatever the fuck I wanted. And I knew that that was a relationship that I shouldn't have been in in the first place. So I was like, since I'm still here, I might as well just do what the fuck I want anyways. And I did that. I'm not saying that that's the right thing to do, that's just what I chose to do.
Speaker 2:Ultimately, all of it led to well, I'm happy now and I learned from it, and now I can speak to both the person who's cheated and the person who's been cheated on. And now I know what I like and what I don't like, what I stand for, what I don't stand for. Sometimes you got to see what both sides of the coin look like to have the discernment that you need. Some people gotta smell the poop. Shout out to my grandmother. People don't believe poop stinks until they smell it. Sometimes you gotta let niggas smell the poop. You can't save them all, not even yourself sometimes. Talk about reflection.
Speaker 1:Yep, I feel that.
Speaker 2:Where we at. I think that's enough for you Thoughts. Sorry, the chat. Actually I'm not sorry. If you're here at this point and you still get offended by stuff like that, go ahead and do yourself a favor Save $3 and answer. It's okay, we will have other people that replace you. Straight, straight, like that Bomb a favor, save $3 and on.
Speaker 1:So it's OK, we will have other people that replace you Straight.
Speaker 2:Straight like that Bamba clock.
Speaker 1:I started watching Shadows a little bit earlier, you feel me. Well, we didn't even get into dating, or body count. But that's for episode three. Four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, whatever It'll.
Speaker 2:Four five, six, seven, eight, nine, whatever. It'll fit in there somewhere. Yeah, it'll fit in there. So I think this is a good one. I can't wait to see what, um, what this becomes.
Speaker 1:I can't wait to see what, what y'all say yeah this is good I'm interested to see how chat oh and real quick before I leave y'all.
Speaker 2:If y'all play games like resident evil 5, it's trash, straight trash we're playing that right now as a co-op game it's a whole franchise.
Speaker 1:Yes, that one specifically is old, but the whole franchise is golden okay, listen, I understand it, I have an opinion, that's I like the last of us.
Speaker 2:I like what they did with it, like the whole zombie umbrella.
Speaker 1:It's a newer game.
Speaker 2:I understand that. Have you played the Last of Us?
Speaker 1:No, but I'm still Right.
Speaker 2:I've played the Last of Us, and now I've played Resident Evil 5.
Speaker 1:Okay, but Resident Evil 5 came out in like 2012.
Speaker 2:That's okay. I play the Warrior still. It's not a zombie game, but it's an older game. I still play Grand Theft Auto, san Andreas. There are just games that are trash, and Resident Evil 5 is one of them.
Speaker 1:Well, that is your opinion. I am a fan.
Speaker 2:I was just about to say Of the whole franchise. Before you cut me off, I was going to say Sweets loves the game, I do and we're playing the game and it's just the graphics and the way that the game functions is trash to me. That doesn't mean it's not fun. I was having fun earlier. I was hitting the circle button saying come on over and over. I thought that was funny and then I was slicing everybody instead of shooting. I think that's just hilarious.
Speaker 1:The folks that play Resident Evil 5 are going to know exactly what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2:You're not going to be able to keep doing that shit, though, talking about that game, you're not gonna be able to keep doing that shit though. Whatever, bro, I'm I'm risky and I'm going to continue to slice until I need.
Speaker 1:You're gonna learn the hard way didn't.
Speaker 2:I just say some people don't believe poop stinks till they smell it. Yeah, I've always learned the hard way. That's just my route.
Speaker 1:You can't stop that all right, I'm not trying to all right.
Speaker 2:Well, what's your takeaway for them? Sweets?
Speaker 1:um, hmm, come on you go first.
Speaker 2:I'm thinking of mine shit my takeaway you should be ready for this. When we ready to wrap up, you should be ready. Come on, bro, fry her up. My takeaway for y'all is when you get in situations with law enforcement officers, please do not let your fear overcome. You turn on your light, put down your windows and do what they say. That does not mean you cannot ask questions or ask them to provide further clarification for what they're doing. And now what they do is have their body cams on and guess what you can have as a counter argument? Your meta glasses. Turn them, motherfuckers, on and record a video of the interaction between you and the officer and watch how they act when they know that there's a camera on. If you want a safety blanket, put a camera on. There's nothing against that at all. They wear body cams. You can wear one. Get a GoPro, turn your phone on, call a friend, do whatever you need, have a witness and watch the difference in that interaction.
Speaker 1:If you're not comfortable with advocating for yourself.
Speaker 1:Make sure you document it your turn. Well, my takeaway would be for the relationship segment, as far as titles changing the dynamic between you and your partner. That shit should not be the case. I feel like it's the dumbest thing ever. If something as simple as being called a girlfriend, a fiance or a wife changes the way you treat your partner, then what's the point of you being in a relationship? But if you are the anomaly and feel like shit is going to remain consistent, then yeah, by all means, marry the person that is your person. I feel like, do that shit if y'all can keep it on the up and up and shit, not get weird.
Speaker 2:And if y'all don't want to listen to us, go talk to the old heads at the nursing home that's about to check, bro, the ones that's about to die, that had marriages that lasted 50, 60, 70 years. Talk to them. They done seen all eras, all genres, all forms of society and culture, and they stayed together Back when they had rotary phones and no cell phone, back when they had to call each other on a payphone they had to write letters and they had to write letters, but it wasn't really upping each other's faces all day and they were just happy and elated to see each other when they came home.
Speaker 2:Now we got sharing locations and you tracking people and following them on instagram and snapchat and x and facebook and instagram and tiktok and all these different things. Y'all need to focus on yourselves. Go outside and do some shit. Turn your phone off, have some other shit going on and maybe you won't be up your partner's ass so much and y'all will actually have some shit to talk about. That's personal. That's personal for all you pussies that can't take it, bro. That's a personal message. Get off your fucking phone unless you're working on it or writing on it and do something for real. Go outside and experience something. Book a trip and then put your phone away. Sit at the dinner table and have an actual conversation instead of scrolling on your tiktok timeline you dumb fucks. Well, phone zombies, bro.
Speaker 2:Y'all are gay that's the message, bro, we wrapping this up. What's this?
Speaker 1:52 minutes yeah, chad, I ain't got nothing else for y'all. Y'all stinking idiots. I got the fucking bgs I gotta get out of here oh we're wrapping this up.
Speaker 2:All right, love y'all bye.
